When you are invited to a private pool here is a list some obvious but often neglected do’s.
- Offer to bring a snack or side dish. I have hosted many people over to swim and only a few offer to bring food. I always have snacks available if it is in-between meals, but I appreciate it so very much when guests offer a lite dish. Guests love dips and this one is easy and so delicious… Strawberry Salsa Just remember most people do not want glass near the pool when choosing a serving dish. I love these from Target
- Bring a towel. Seems obvious, but I am shocked at the number of people who show up without one. The host will have to wash, dry & fold your towel after you have gone and is that really how you would like to say thank you for the invite? With that said, I am forgetful at times too and so I always have extras for those that forget as a common courtesy. As a matter of fact a monogrammed towel is a great host gift.
- Watch your children. If your children have graciously been invited they are still your responsibility. As a host I would not want to correct someone else’s children, but if it came down to their safety I would certainly speak up. Squirting toys are a whole different topic, but if the host doesn’t provide them then consider them off-limits.
- Be mindful of the hosts time by arriving and leaving when appropriate. I invited friends over for an afternoon swim and made it known I had to leave town later that evening. It was such a good time, that I did not want to ask them to leave, but I really needed them too. If your host doesn’t give an end time then I would assume a 2 hour time limit. They may ask you to stay longer at that point or they may appreciate your initiative.
- If you are invited to a Pool party or a Swim party you are expected to stay in the pool or swim area unless the host indicates the party is indoors as well. I have seen guests come over and take a seat on a couch, turn on the T.V., and remain indoors while the party was located poolside. This is rude. Stay home if this is your attitude or intention.
The Wall Street Journal reports that the fashion industry is moving their ad dollars to digital media. This may not seem like a big deal at first, but if you are familiar with the symbiotic relationship between fashion magazines and the designers or if you have watched the movie “The Devil Wears Prada” then it may become a little clearer as to why this matters.
The fashion industry that has been guided by magazine editors and fashion directors, will now be left to social media ads, digital magazines and fashion bloggers.
Why are these ads more effective? When you take a deeper look you will find instant gratification. In the words of Veruca Salt in Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory, “I want it now”.
We can have almost anything in an instant, feeding our impulsive desires. Psychology Today, explains that this may be one reason for obesity.
Even with all that we can demand instantaneously, nature stands firm. Science tries to find ways to manipulate and alter, but ask a couple that has endured months of fertility drugs and you will see nature in control.
What is it that you want instantly? Why? What was the last thing you wanted that you waited for? Did it mean more or less than something given instantly?
The print ads in fashion magazines like Vogue and Harper’s Bazaar are works of tangible art at the nearest salon & spa. Flip and dream while you wait will now be replaced with swipe and scroll while you wait.
On June 5, 2017, it was announced that Chief Executive of J. Crew, Millard “Mickey” Drexler, stepped down.
American brand, J. Crew, started out as a low – priced clothing and accessories retailer. That changed in 2003 when the company hired Millard “Mickey” Drexler as Chief Executive. Drexler repositioned the brand to the upscale dressy shop we are so familiarly fond of. Sadly, the declining physical retail sales numbers suggest technology is responsible.
Reading this story, can you see your story? Have you ever found yourself in a situation you did not desire? Can you relate to giving your best; only to find it wasn’t enough? Circumstances beyond your ability to control have left you feeling defeated.
In the book, “When I am Afraid” , Author Edward Welch explains,
You will trust in something or someone; that’s part of being human…. Trust in things that are untrustworthy, and you are trusting in quicksand.
This is not to say you cannot feel discouragement or disappointment, but at some point we have to learn to let it go.
Can you look back into the past to a time when you stood in the midst of disappointment and sadness and find the good?
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – C.S. Lewis.